WEIGHT LOSS AND DEPRIVATION

“But not all overeating is emotional….” I blogged on March 21.  In part I’d reacted to a headline stating “What Are You Hungry For?…It’s Not Food…In Fact, It’s Everything But Food.”  While I bristled at that, it did precede some good wisdom in the form of an excerpt from Geneen Roth’s Women, Food and God.  In fact, with sane eating  in mind, I turn now to a Roth quote highlighted in the pages beyond that headline.  She says “To change your body, you must first understand that which is shaping it.  Not fight it.  Not force it.  Not deprive it.  Not shame it.”   This is saying a lot. To start with, let’s consider the “Not deprive it” part.  How in the world can that support healthy weight?  Isn’t deprivation a built-in part of losing weight? 

People indeed report feelings of deprivation as a primary reason for abandoning weight loss efforts.  Often these feelings lead to overindulging in sweets, high-fat, and junk foods and in gorging on large portions.    To lose weight, to maintain a good weight, to make changes for the better, does require eating less of such things.  Is feeling deprived, then, inevitable?  I think to make changes that last, that become part of us, the answer has to be “no”.
Part of what has to happen, I think, is a change in perception, in how you think about and conceive of these foods in your life.  People who come to successfully manage their weight start to recognize the role of choice.   Their inner dialogue will tend to some form of:   “Yes, of course I can have that slab of mud pie…but do I really want all that goes with it—feeling stuffed, guilty, and then struggling forever after with the weight?”  Taking care of themselves, then, is doing what leaves them feeling more peaceful and on track with longer-term goals, not what immediately pleases the senses.
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his change in perception doesn’t happen overnight.  Many only come to it after years of struggling with diet.  It can help, though, to consider the following.  First, where does the idea come from, that not being able to eat unlimitedly is “deprivation”?  I think it comes in large part from a culture and food industry that has made unhealthy, unnaturally palatable foods (like mud pie, for example) part of the norm, rather than what they truly should be—treats.  We wouldn’t think of living without unlimited alcohol as “deprivation” necessarily….and some of these foods can fall into a similar druglike category if eaten in large quantities.
Second, it helps to recognize that just about everyone, not only those cursed with poor metabolism, have to manage tempting foods.   Very few people can eat fattening foods in large amounts and not develop a weight problem.  These foods surround us and tend to trigger an appetite for more.  Figuring out how to keep foods like potato chips and cookies “treats” is a challenge.  It’s true that limiting these foods comes easier to some than others, for a variety of reasons, but it’s not true that only the overweight have to go without.   Relaxing that sense of being unfairly burdened can help—and these foods do in fact challenge most of us.
 Finally, 
ask yourself if deprivation exists in areas of your life beyond food.   It may not be true that “It’s Everything But the Food”, as many of our modern foods do indeed trigger cravings.  However, as Roth and others emphasize, we do seek food for comfort, relaxation, and a host of other reasons that stem from real deprivation.  Being deprived of love, dignity, power, non-food pleasures, time to relax, a voice that’s heard—all of these very human desires can be waylaid into a desire for food.    Perceiving choice instead of deprivation is much, much easier when these other deprivations are relieved.   

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4 Responses to “WEIGHT LOSS AND DEPRIVATION”

  1. I couldn’t agree more with this post, and your initial reaction to the message, which is all too prevalent, that people overeat because they are psychologically (or even spiritually) deprived. Rather, feelings of deprivation are why most people do not (and should not) stay on “diets.”

    What many call “emotional eating” can be a real problem, and is the opposite of “mindful eating.” Being aware of emotional eating, and finding more healthy ways to cope with emotional issues, is an important step in adopting a healthy lifestyle.

    I found your blog because I wrote a similar post on my blog today (see http://charlesgoldman.wordpress.com/2010/05/15/why-eat-only-when-youre-hungry-wont-work/).

  2. drkatz says:

    Thanks for your comments….for some reason, they just recently showed up on my Word Press. Terese Weinstein Katz

  3. Jeremy says:

    I’ve been working out cetsistonnly for about a year, but my weight loss has been really slow. I’ve only lost about 15-18lbs. I’ve also changed my diet and started eating a lot healthier. I haven’t been intaking much protein and I believe that is a reason why my weight loss has been slow. How much protein should I take to speed up my weight loss? Are there any recipes, shakes or vitamins I should be taking?I workout at least 3-4x a week. On average I’m at the gym for 1hr. 1.5hrs. I’ve been attending the RPM Body Pump classes at least 2x a week. On the other days I’m doing cardio and weightlifting. I also do resistence training.

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